Many guys can tell you a story or two about missing an opportunity to ask a great girl out because of a fear of rejection, only to regret it for a very long time! Asking a girl out is one of the most difficult parts of dating, especially if you're shy or inexperienced. But, you must have the courage to take a chance and risk failing in order to connect with someone special.

Prepare Before You Ask a Girl Out

You don't have to rehearse every single word you're going to say, but it's good to look ahead and imagine how the conversation might go. Think about how you're going to approach her, and decide how you'll react in different scenarios; everything from her saying “no” right away, to the two of you laughing while she writes down her phone number!

Different Ways to Ask Out a Girl

How you ask a girl out depends a lot on how well you know her. If you see a cute stranger sitting on a park bench, you could walk over and introduce yourself, or ask her about the book she's reading. If she responds positively to you, you can ask for her phone number, and call her within the next few days.

But, if you've had your eye on a girl for awhile, you probably know some basics about her: that she's single and loves foreign movies, for example. You'll want to strike up a natural conversation, and could then simply ask if she'd like to take in a film with you on the weekend.

Never underestimate the power of being unique. Even if a girl says no, if you make a memorable impression on her, you might be on her mind in the future. One of the biggest mistakes guys still make is relying on cheesy pick-up lines. Don't! Think of something unique to say or do, and stand out from the crowd.

Here area few casual phrases you could use when you're asking a girl out:

• “I was thinking of seeing a concert on Friday. Have you ever heard of/do you like (insert name of the band)?”
• “ We should have a drink/coffee/meal together sometime.”
• “ Would you like to have a drink/coffee meal together sometime?
• “ My friend's having a get-together next week. I was thinking it would be fun if we went together.”

How to React if a Girl Says No

Be graceful if a girl says no. Don't pester her or try and change her mind. Smile, tell her something like “No problem” or “I understand” or “Maybe another time” and change the topic of conversation. Or, if you want to leave right away, tell her you have an appointment in a few minutes and have to go.

Most importantly, don't get discouraged. Although it's difficult, try not to take it personally, it doesn't mean that you're unattractive or unintelligent. She may have just broken up with her boyfriend, she may be caught completely off guard, or you may not be her type. Learn from your experiences, and try again!